When I have a “normal” life, not going out a lot, not
changing time zones like my underwear, I have a habit that annoys everyone
around me, which is getting up at 7:30 in the morning. I love the morning and generally have
an excitement for the day ahead.
In college I worked two jobs while going to school full time, but I
always gave myself a couple of hours in the morning to take a nice, long bath,
eat a big breakfast and generally enjoy myself. The rest of the day would eventually spiral out of control
with all the things to be done in a little amount of time and I often fell
asleep with a textbook on my face.
It became my personality that I would pop out of bed in the morning
because I associated it with “my time.”
Fast forward to 2004 with my newly built dungeon and my
mornings, dawdling about my studio finding something to obsessively clean or
some such nonsense. The climate of the pro-domme message boards and general
feedback was that session prices were too high. My hourly rate was $250, which was the top end, meaning an
indy domme with a private studio to use.
Of course I wasn’t renting a private studio by the hour, I had my own
place--a fixed cost. So here, my
friend, is a story never heard before in the past 8 years.
Oooohhh yeah, just hanging out in my leather corset, skirt and boots. The top my throne was dusty. |
The outcry of session prices was palatable by clients on the
boards, clients contacting me and in the general rumor mill. The debate was answered by dommes in
how much it costs to be a pro-domme. A typical outfit cost $300-$600;
advertising was $1,000+ a month; equipment used in a session was about $1,5000,
and so on. Of course the outfit
and equipment was used more than once, but one had to have a wide range of such
outfits and equipment to accommodate various kinks. “My type of session doesn’t need all that stuff!” A client
would inevitably say. “I don’t need to see a super famous, skilled domme.”
“Dommes would make a lot more money if they didn’t spend so much on outfits and
gear and did more low cost sessions.”
Okay, challenge accepted.
A simple foot or OTK session in the morning might be a nice
way to start my day. What say $75
for a half hour foot or OTK session in the morning? NO ONE could beat that. The houses charged $120 for a half-hour session. Heck if you
wanted to rent from a house or private dungeon it was $40+ to rent for the half
hour. Never mind no one was open
at that time and no one was going to come let you in her place at 8 AM for $40.
That point in time, I was just climbing the summit of my
popularity. There was no way I was
going to dilute the “Domina M” brand with a blue light special. Besides the argument was that they wanted
the minimum, simply a focus on their fetish. Okay fine. I
created a new yahoo email account and advertised, “Simple foot/otk sessions
with a beautiful, busty, 29-year-old blond. 8AM-11AM. $75 per ½ hour” every
free place I could. Gotta be true
to the scheme and keep all costs related to this down. I did use a lot of actual pictures of
me that I had paid for, only with my face cropped out. Hypothetically, Miss Morgan, my thrifty
alter ego, had spent $300 for foot photos on this endeavor.
In summary, get an “Off-Brand Domina M, No Frills Session
for $75” with the idea that I could pick up a foot/OTK session a few times a
week, no fuss, no muss. There was
a market out there, wasn’t there?
The secret to getting a discounted session was recognizing that was my butt. |
“R U AVALIBL 4 A SESION?”
“Yes.” Yeah okay, this wasn’t going to be an up-market
clientele, was it.
“IN 15 MINS?”
“Sure.” Ugh,
well I was sitting in the dungeon anyway.
Two hours later, nothing from that potential client. I
suppose I could have a perfectly stimulating conversation with myself for 30
minutes if he was a dumb-dumb.
With that mental consolation I trudged forward.
“Does that include sex?” That delightful message arrived not
too long after I posted an ad on CraigsList.
“What? No.”
“How about if I tip you another $10?”
This was not going well. Was there someone out there thinking they can get
professional sex for $85? And did they think someone who turns tricks for that
little money would provide a quality experience? Well I guess there’s always going to be that guy.
Or a lot of those guys. Fair enough. I
deleted the emails and blocked them from my instant messenger as time wasters.
“Hello Miss Morgan!
I am very submissive and would love to serve you in the morning!!!1!1!”
Oooh, here we go. “Do you have fully-fashioned Cuban-heel stockings? Like I said, I am very submissive and
also enjoy CBT, cross dressing, spitting and face slapping. Do you have
suspension?”
“No, just some nice black stockings for some domestic play.”
Of course, I had all of that stuff, but geeze-louise, fully-fashioned
Cuban-heel stockings alone are $50 a pair. I wanted an easy morning session.
“Sorry. Email me when you get that suspension.”
Yeah, buddy, right on that.
This = not enough value for a $75 half hour. |
“R U AVALIBL 4 A SESION?”
“Yes.” He was coming back?
“IN 15 MINS?”
“Sure.” But no,
he never replied after the initial questions. Was he just checking to see if I was sitting, waiting for a
session???
“Dear Goddess, I would love to see you. Do you offer nude sessions and are you
a clock-watcher? I would love to
be naked over your lap.”
My office was the discount champagne room at a strip club?
Granted it wouldn’t cost me anything to be naked, but, ew.
What happened next in this series of photos was NOT what one would find in a strip club. |
“R U AVALIBL 4 A SESION?”
For the love of Pete. . . .
After all of that, how many people did I see in those three
months? None. Zero. Goose-Egg.
Okay, I understand that it was a VERY limited time frame in
the morning. I was doing an
experiment; I wasn’t stupid. It
was pretty typical to get a mid-afternoon session, an after-the-workday
session, and/or an after-dinner session at my normal rates. I still had invested in my brand and a
butt-load of equipment. There’s a different between being curious and reckless
to be pure to an experiment.
The response to that would be I did see no less than two
clients regularly in the morning at my usual rate. These were full blown sessions and all, but there are those
who see professional dommes before 11 AM.
And, you know I was still doing simple foot sessions and OTK sessions in
the “regular times” for the going rate.
In fact, they were much more respectful that the “slaves” who were
getting the bargain of a lifetime.
Years after that I did more experiments with my pricing and
attempting to be more sensitive to the economy by offering trades and such,
both more publicly and such much more of a disaster. So take it from me, dommes and subs, the price of a session
is the price. One will get into
trouble trying to out-clever oneself.
I recently offered a session special for my dommiversary. 2005 rates for existing clients. Worked out to about ⅓ off my current Tribute based on two hours. Only one person who'd seen me more than once took me up on it. Everyone else who had seen me more than once refused the special (though there were 2-3 who accepted the 20% off offer).
ReplyDeleteThis shocked me. I talked about it with a few of my vanilla friends, most of whom had marketing backgrounds. Their conclusion? BDSM -- at least the way women like you and I practice it -- is not a price sensitive business. It's value based. If I want to increase my business, I should charge more.
I remember when you had the highest rates in town … and you were one of the busiest dommes, too. Fact of the matter is, the guys bitching about tribute costs more often than not aren't good clients to begin with.
Hope it's ok that I'm commenting so much on your blog. As usual, you're the most interesting thing going on in the scene these days…
I'm going to one up you and say that not only is domination not super price sensitive, I'm going to say that a higher tribute is PART of the scene.
ReplyDeleteRemember the couple of years when I gave a discount in trade for a jacket donation for the homeless? It had no change on my business, no new clients and my regulars just dug up jackets out of their closets and didn't care about the discount. I think in all of that, one person took the discount.
Didn't I tell you when we met that I was the most interesting person you'll ever meet? Hah!
I am a professional musician who has taught many students over the years. Especially early on, I made something like the same mistake that You did, offering discount or free lessons. One student was spectacular, did tremendously, and paid me as soon as he could, because he felt he owed me for what I showed him. Every single one of the rest didn't work, didn't learn, and wasted not only my time but their own.
ReplyDeleteYou don't really get into the psychology here; perhaps, like me, You don't really know what it is. But whatever the convoluted motivations, trying to help people with a price break on professional services seems to work terribly all around, far more often than not. "Alas," maybe; but, as the emperor says in Amadeus, "well, then! there it is!"...
May I just say that it is very refreshing to read Your blogs and be stimulated by more than just Your beauty. It is quite clear that You are extremely intelligent and well spoken. I have thoroughly enjoyed Your wit and sprinkling of sarcasm to boot! Thank You Domina M for raising the bar to Olympic levels... Dr.J
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